Lesson 2 – Definition by Comparison

Pro-Social Behaviors

VIDEO REVIEW

1. The term “pro-social behavior” describes a general attitude of openness, friendliness and caring toward others. Pro-social behaviors are things we do which reflect this general attitude.
2. The terms empathy, pity, sympathy and altruism refer to our pro-social interactions and are often used interchangeably but have important differences.
3. The key difference is in the giver’s perspective and the impact that perspective has on the recipient.

Explanatory Note: As we will discuss in Module 2, it is more likely for group members to empathize with other members of their own group because of the perceived similarities between “Self” & “Other.” However, perceived differences between “Self” and “Other” can make it more difficult to empathize with members of another group/gang.

The Impact of Pity

REVIEW

1. The Mutual Impact Dynamic represents a relational dynamic between two people. For example, “A” says or does something to “B” and “B” reacts/responds, in turn impacting “A.” This mutual reaction & response dynamic is unique to the dyad, and becomes an habitual pattern.
2. Pity can have a negative impact on the recipient, as the observer may feel sorry for the recipient and respond from an emotional distance that may reflect some personal judgement about the recipient.

Personal Reflection – The Impact of Pity

Coaching Note: The following questions are meant for you to reflect on your personal experience and are not scored. Questions do not have right or wrong answers, and all answers are completely confidential. (Take the time you need and be as true to yourself and as accurate as possible.)